Thai Romances

How Do I Know If a Thai Woman Likes Me?

Martin Cooney
March 26, 2020 • 10 min read • Click for comments
Updated: November 02, 2021
Girls in Thailand always look for a special foreigner

If you're new to dating a woman in Thailand or even if you're not, these girls can be confusing to judge whether they like you or not.

Women in Thailand behave differently from other girls. Relationships in Thailand are culturally different, so are the girl's expectations. Your first dating experiences will be confusing.

Your confusion will lead to anxiety, and your self-confidence will plummet, which isn't desirable. You want to find Thai girls who want to be with you.

How are you going to know if a Thai girl likes you or not?

Thai people are straightforward, involving their feelings. Their culture makes them shy to express emotions, in public. There are many indicators of whether a Thai woman likes you or not. Agreeing to meet a man for a date has more meaning in Thailand. The girl already has feelings for you. Going on a second date secures her interest in you. Spooning a man food from her plate is reserved for a Thai couple in a relationship. A third date together and sexual relations cement her enthusiasm for a long-term relationship.

Before we get started, you should be aware of the friendship culture in Thailand.

Many Thai women appear to have a great many friends, but the truth of it is their superficial friendships.

By that I mean, work colleagues or long term school friends who the girls maintain contact. They don't, however, connect on a confidence level. The majority of relationships they have with Thai men are on that very same level, despite them being called a boyfriend.

These Thai girls, via social media, see foreigners in what they believe to be having a much deeper shared relationship. It's something they eventually end up craving after. They'll grow tired of these superficial friendships and will seek out dating with a foreigner.

Phase One

When you finally get to zoning in on the Thai woman you'd like to know more, you need to see she likes you, in return.

The first phase will be meeting her, over a coffee or an ice cream and is very casual. Don't apply any sort of pressure on her either.

She Agrees to Meet You

Just meet the Thai girl for coffee the first time
Just meet the Thai girl for coffee the first time

If you're reading down this far, you want to find a good Thai woman, for either a short or a lengthy relationship and you want to know whether she likes you. As in, for real, adores you.

The best way for a Thai to meet up with a foreigner, who she wants in her life, is to join an online dating site such as ours. That's the easiest and quickest way for her to get started.

You should also read a few previous blog posts on how best to start conversations with Thai women.

OK, by this time, you will have dwindled the number of women you've contacted down to select few.

You need to get to know them through an online chat before you decide to meet in real life.

There will be Thai girls that you 'hit it off with' almost immediately and there will be others who you don't connect with you. But chatting online is just the first step, in really knowing whether she likes you enough.

Meeting face-to-face with her is your crucial next step.

The girls in Thailand are polite, for sure. They would rather avoid being offensive. That's the cultural environment for all Thais.

So your first step in discovering if she likes you is to ask her out and meet up.

Keep it limited to a coffee or tea, in a public place and limit the time to no more than an hour. Consider a venue that provides some cake and pastry tidbits too.

Don't opt for dinner for the first meeting either. Don't allow the woman to push you into dinner either.

This shorter time gives her a taste of who you are AND gives you enough time to get a sense if you like her, in the flesh.


When seating yourselves, direct her to where you want her to sit.

You want to avoid sitting opposite to her, i.e. avoid sitting across from her at the table.

Sitting opposite forms a physiological barrier, subconsciously.

This seating arrangement eliminates a subtle mental barrier as well as leading into the next point that allows her to demonstrate an attractive Thai trait if she likes you or not.

She Feeds You

Being spoon-fed is simply delightful
Being spoon-fed by a Thai woman is simply delightful

When you've ordered your individual coffee/tea and pastries, also order different cakes.

Thai girls love to take care of their guy.

Even if you aren't hers yet, she might have already made up her mind.

Thai women will already have a sense if you're a good guy, and that's all they want; a good guy who will treat them with a bit of respect and take care of them. It's as simple as that in Thailand.

The surprise will be her offering to spoon some of her cake or pastry to your mouth, to try.

Thai women do this frequently as a sort of offering and taking care - think of it as a kind of mothering instinct.

If you're lucky enough, this is yet another sign she likes you enough to 'take care'.

Enjoy the hour with her and end the meeting inside an hour. Let her stew on your mutual encounter and keep in touch with her using the Line app.

Don't be too quick but do thank her for your time together. Explain you'll be in touch soon if she would like. Her reply to this will be another indication whether she wants you too.

She Quickly Agrees to a Market Visit

You will both enjoy the wonders of a Thai market
You will both enjoy the wonders of a Thai market

Well, if you made it thru the 1st coffee and she replies she would like more time together then ask her out to one of the many local markets dotted throughout Thailand.

Thai girls love their culture and local markets. It's a chance for them to get out and about, just to wander around and do some mindless shopping, eating local cheap, tasty food and chill.

Chilling is always better with someone she likes.

If she agrees to the market adventure, then you've improved your standing and yet another step up in her liking you more.

They're easy girls to like with their soft and gentle nature.

Now is a great time to see what interests her too.

Take notes mentally to the food and trinkets that catch her eye.

Phase Two

This phase might seem a little rushed if you're used to dating western women and all their rules.

Things are different in Thailand - a lot different!

Forget all you think you learnt back in your home country about the rules relating to Thai women.

Third Date Agreement to the Bedroom

She knows what going to happen on the 3rd date
She knows what going to happen on the 3rd date

You're on your 3rd meetup now.

Enough time has passed for her to make up her mind about you.

And it's crunch time for you, so get brave and invite your Thai cutie to your condo.

You're better to use some lame excuse such as watching a movie together and getting some snacks; to relax and chill out together simply.

If she doesn't want to, then the interest level isn't there, unfortunately.

Choose now; either dump her and move to another Thai girl who you've already lined up. You have, haven't you? You're on a dating site that allows you to talk to many other women?

Don't waste time with her stringing you along.

Some Thai women just want a friend.

You don't need or want to be a friend.

If she agrees to come to your condo, she will know it means sex is on the menu. They aren't dumb lol.


While Thai girls understand their role and dynamic when it comes to sex, many simply don't have the experience.

Example: I've had many where I'm the first foreigner they've ever dated. They understand and know already from friends that foreigners have vastly different preferences than Thai guys when it comes to sex, such as enjoying mutual oral sex.

Thai men don't usually indulge in giving oral.

Thai girls are the first to admit the lack of experience; most will openly ask you to tell them what you like. They do want to learn more, to make you happy. Bet you've never had that happen with a western woman :)

Enjoy it!

She's Good to Move In

Nearly all Thai girlfriends want to move in together
Nearly all Thai girlfriends want to move in together

This section isn't for everyone as you all have different reasons for meeting Thai women here.

If you are looking for live-in company and more than short-term relations, then moving in together will make sense for you.

The majority of Thai women will always be keen to live with the foreign guy they like.

There will be times where they're concerned about what their family thinks of the idea, but this is rare nowadays in Thailand. Thailand is more 'western' than it was ten or more years ago.

Moving in together is more a decision for you.

  • you should have experienced many Thai girls by now
  • don't jump at the first one who you go to bed with
  • you've dated exclusively for some time
  • she's compliant to your liking
  • you're compatible sexually

What is the final test?

Ask if she wants to move in with you; see if there's any pushback or reservations on her part.

Your chances are excellent that she likes you very much. Be prepared for an avalanche of new clothes in your wardrobes.


Girls in Thailand just want someone special
Girls in Thailand just want someone special

You'll meet more Thai women that like you than you like back.

They aren't all that discerning when it comes to appearance. Obviously, please don't come across as an unkept unshaven slob unless that is your true nature. You're trying to find a Thai woman who likes your appearance.

You need to always focus on precisely the qualities you're looking in a Thai woman. There's so many looking for a foreign boyfriend that you could get overwhelmed if you aren't specific.

Always be lining up backup girls. You will meet many who you don't end up liking - keep having backups is all part of the plan.

There will be a great many Thai women who will like you. You will need to make choices which girl you want.


How Do I Know If a Thai Woman Likes Me?

  • She Agrees to Meet You
  • She Feeds You
  • She Quickly Agrees to a Market Visit
  • She Freely Agrees to Sex
  • She's Good to Move In with You

Why should I move in with a Thai woman?

  • Only after you've experienced many previous Thai girls
  • She isn't the first Thai woman you've slept with
  • You've dated exclusively for some time
  • She's compliant to your liking
  • You're compatible sexually with her

Last updated: November 02, 2021

Martin enjoys Asian food, cute Asian girls and travel in South East Asia.
Martin Cooney
Enjoying Life in Asia/Pacific

Hi, my name is Martin. I have many friends in and traveled throughout the Asia/Pacific regions for the past 17 years. I am passionate in helping others with my insight and past adventures.

I hope you enjoy the stories I write and take a little something away from them. I've contributed to over 160 posts on travel, dating, marriage and relationships.