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I've been coming to Thailand since July 2010.
And like many single male tourists, I was only looking for Thai holiday girlfriends. After all, that kind of experience is what every red-blooded male wants on a Thailand holiday.
Getting hooked up with a Thai woman for a holiday can be easy if you know the method/s. Fortunately, I've had excellent success in my adventures in this area.
Finding a holiday girlfriend in Thailand is easy since Thai women rarely get a vacation opportunity. Join and upgrade on a dedicated Thai dating website first. Add four to five quality head-shot photos, so you look your best. Chat with many women and take notes as well as rate the women on suitability. You must always ensure their intentions through rigorous questioning.
So how did I end up in Thailand?
Some shitty relationships with a final violent, disrespectful Aussie girl drove me bonkers.
I swore myself off having anything meaningful until an older friend, Nic, suggested that maybe an Asian girl would be better suited. He explained Asian cultures are deeply rooted in respect, and the guys took the upper hand in relationships.
What did I have to lose?
Being in IT, I knuckled down into research mode. I could have chosen many other countries to try ,like the Philippines, Cambodia, Laos, Vietnam, or China. Still, Thailand won the day since it was also very popular with ex-pats at the time.
How did I start then?
Since I was still working, my only option was trying the online dating scene. Since that was a first-time experience, I lost count of how many Thai dating sites I joined, but it was a lot.
That was where my due diligence first started.
In short, I ended up first joining and upgrading the membership on the current Top 2 websites - TF and TC. Eventually, I created ThaiRomances with my long-time friend, Martin. All those 'free' sites have scammers and fakes - you waste most of your time and get nowhere.
So why must you upgrade your membership?
I believe you get what you pay for in life. Upgrading allows for no block messages - the girls know if you're a free member, and they quickly lose interest and move onto someone else.
Is that what you want? Do you want the girl you're interested in to get snatched up by the next guy? No, of course, you don't. But I found it unusual by the number of guys playing it cheap - being a 'cheap charlie' makes no sense.
That was my first big awakening for online dating, though. Upgrading greased the way to getting any Thai girl I wanted.
It never failed.
Thai girls latch on to the guy who pays them the first attention and can chat with them.
Planning the trip
Having figured that out, I booked a flight to Thailand and a condo in Bangkok. All scheduled a few months in the future.
Why Bangkok, you ask?
I didn't like the sounds of Pattaya, like many other men. The place just sounded dirty and an entire red-light district. I'm sure many others are attracted by that, but not me.
I thought of Bangkok as a good jumping-off point to the islands I was planning to visit.
That was my strategy for my first month and a half stay in Thailand. I intended to get Bangkok based Thai women interested in being a holiday girlfriend to travel with me.
My first trip to the country was as a traveling sex-tourist but with a Thai girl by my side.
Now it is 'Landed and Explore' Time.
Having my base in Bangkok turned out to be a great idea.
I wasn't disappointed in seeing female activities many men only dream of experiencing. I particularly loved Crazy House at the bottom end of Soi Cowboy with fully naked Thai women dancing on stage. I visit there every time I'm in Bangkok, lol.
That six-week adventure was a mind-blowing time for me.
You will ditch ThaiFriendly as still full of scammers, with their ridiculous 10-minute wait for free people - scammers flock to that platform. ThaiCupid is just full of Thai girls who seemed to use the site as a time filler to chat and do nothing else - you won't be bothered after a week or so.
ThaiRomances is by far the No. #1 dating platform when going to Thailand.
I planned and booked four different Thai girls who could take holidays from their regular day-to-day work and wanted a week holiday. They paid for nothing and knew they were initially my holiday girlfriend.
I had a different girl for a week in Koh Samui, Koh Larn, Koh Chiang, and Koh Samet.
Wall to wall fun and adventure.
All the holiday girls enjoyed themselves, took their selfies for Instagram and friends, and I had them all to myself for whatever I pleased.
They were more than willing since they understood my expectations before we even meet.
Anyone can do this - and I mean anyone.
I ran my 'process' (which I'll explain shortly) past my friend Nic when his marriage ended. And six months later, my mother passed away. So Dad was getting very lonely and wanted to find another lady. Both my friend Nic and I got Dad started on my method.
Nic is now actually married to a sweet and beautiful Thai girl. My Dad has decided to move to Thailand and live in one of the provinces to try out a rural living - he's recently found someone who takes care of him.
In my opinion, this works for just about any scenario - providing you're serious in getting results and not just a tire-kicker.
In 5 years, I've ventured to Thailand 7 times. Five on my dime for holidays and two more were short-notice conventions/seminars my employer kindly paid.
It was just for fun, sex, and a relaxing adventure around the islands with a new girl on each trip for the first few times. After that, I started slowing down. Not on the sex but more the number of girls.
Strangely enough, I was getting more enjoyment and sex when I had the girl stay longer. A Thai girl will be more willing when she is with you longer.
But, as I said before, it's in setting expectations, knowing what you want to achieve, and planning dates, flights, and aligning all the girls for that timing. ThaiRomances helps you do all that.
Join and have a profile here.
I know a few of my friends were a little timid in joining a dating site at first.
Chatting over a few beers with them, it turned out to be male bravado. The male ego got to them where they thought they shouldn't need any help picking up women.
I said to them the following - "For fucks sake! Are you crazy? Do you see what I get each holiday when I go to Thailand !?!?!? How could you possibly do that yourself?"
That was enough to convince them all.
Just join and get started.
Crafting your profile is so important.
I did a ton of online research about profiles.
It turns out this sites' Welcome Message gives you the main pointers anyway, but I stupidly brushed them off when I first joined.
Read that message when you get it and keep it as a reminder [Thumbs Up]
Do as the girls do - follow their lead because they like the same.
South-East Asian girls all love to take selfies. You've only got to browse through the profiles here, and you'll notice 90% or more of the women all have good quality profile photos.
That's what you need to do too. Thai girls love to browse Instagram and Facebook and look at what other people are doing.
My research soon pulled up the fact that dating profiles are the same. It's the first interest point that attracts a woman's attention.
After some trial and error, I settled on five particular photos that I maintain in my profile. Let me share what I chose and why you should do something similar to me.
 A clear head-shot at my workstation. It is crisp and shows my face (as ugly as I think it is, lol) and told by the Thai girls that see it that they love seeing my eyes (which are brown).
I made sure I got 1 of my work buddies to take quite a few photos in the same situation to pick and enhance the best one. That's a photography tip in case you didn't know. Take many and pick out the best.
I also bought some small cute fluffy animals that I dotted around my desk and had them in the photo too. Asian girls love that shit, and it makes for a chat starter when they're looking at your stuff online.
 Me on the golf course. So this is sort of an action shot but still clearly showing my face. Incidentally, they won't allow photos here without seeing your face in it, making sense for a dating site.
Yeah, again, I got my golf buddy to take them for me. Why waste time, huh? You can do this yourself with your phone and the photo timer. I'm just lazy, and it's easier for a mate to take them and move around to different angles.
Another conversation starter, if you hadn't guessed.
 Cuddling my dog. Dogs are like fluffy animal toys, lol
This one took me many shots until I was satisfied. I wanted both myself and my dog looking at the camera and wanted them clear and colorful too.
Some photos are best when the viewer (cute Thai girls) sees you looking at them. I forget what the photo research said precisely. Still, it was about eye contact, making an unconscious connection with the other person.
Try a photo of you and a dog together. You can't imagine the number of random Thai women who send me the first message when I make that photo my default one.
 Spooning food towards my mouth. Asian people love their food and the variety too.
Thai girls are strangely fixated on food too. You can't imagine just how much until you go out on a few food adventures in and around Bangkok or wherever you decide in Thailand. They are total beasts, lol (In a great and fun way).
I tried doing this photo at home and by myself, but it was a bust. I ended up asking a female work friend to lunch, explained what I was up to, and asked if she would do the photo shooting for me. Funny that she thought it was such a sweet thing for me to be feeling so much about impressing girls and taking care in doing it.
The final photo was eating ice-cream, halfway to my mouth, and looking at the camera.
 The Thinker. You know the pose. Just a shoulder head-shot. Looking at the camera with a finger at the mouth as if you're thinking of something. Eyes are looking up for the thinking about something pose.
I get Thai girls always asking, 'what are you thinking?'
Photo Tips FAQ:
I screwed the pooch on this one when I first started :)
My thinking was to write lots of useful info so girls could read and ask questions.
It turns out the result is the opposite.
You'll soon find that most Thai women don't have a good grasp of the English language. Writing a lot of stuff makes their eyes roll back, and they move onto another guy to check out.
Short descriptions, short sentences, breaks between sentence lines, few words in each, and the Thai woman can copy/paste in Google Translate works the best.
Here's an example of an earlier one of mine. I change it from time to time, but it's the same:
"my name is Stephane"
"I have a good job with computers."
"I have come to Thailand many times already."
"I look for a good girl for my life."
"Can we talk more?"
Name, good job, Looking for a good girl, let's chat more.
Nothing complicated. Words that are easy to understand and Google can translate without problems if they have poor English skills. And a question to them to chat more so it's an invitation.
Nothing about some fancy 'IT Quality Assurance Tester' title means nothing to them, and that Google is bound to stuff up in translation.
Simple, easy, short.
Your photos will do all the heavy lifting for you anyway. Just get those right, and you're most of the way there.
At the time of writing this post, ThaiRomances has been operating for five years already. There are so many features that will continue to help you get the Thai girl' that you want. Well girls actually, lol.
Free or Upgrade
Let's first talk about that big elephant in the room, shall we? And that is about upgrading your membership.
Upgrading should be a no-brainer once you've set up your profile and are ready to land the Thai girls. Still, even my friend hesitated and wanted to be a free member.
Nic's Story - Nic is a good-looking guy, no doubt. So he says to me, 'I don't think I need to pay money to attract women and have a good time.'
OK Nic, I say, up to you and get them. If you have any problems, let me know if I can help.
Well, I asked him a few weeks later how he was going. Not so good.
Eventually, free accounts get blocked messages. You aren't going any further with that girl.
Smart guys upgrade and waltz in there, chat to the girl without any blocks or restrictions. And then they whisk her off to Line (a chat application) to arrange to fuck her brains out on my next holiday.
My free account holding friend just lost so many golden opportunities to less attractive guys who played the 'smart game.'
So, yeah, upgrade for the price of a beer lunch and stop wasting your time.
Incidentally, you are better with a yearly membership for the cost-saving. You can chat freely anytime you want and find a Thai cutie any time of the night or day and start something.
Nic upgraded and is now happily married to a charming Thai woman.
Rating and Secret Notes
I'm freaking hopeless when it comes to remembering what I have said to who. When you're arranging a heap of different Thai girls to align with your holiday dates, it becomes an increasing nightmare.
If you don't review what you've said and say the wrong thing to the wrong girl, then kiss that Thai woman good-bye, along with the time and effort you had already put into her.
After you've set up your desired age range, which is 15 - 20 years younger than yourself, browse through the 'Your Matches' section. That area is tailor-made for matching age ranges for Thai women.
I focus on Bangkok, but I'm more than OK if they're cute and live outside BKK.
At this stage, I'm not sending messages, just getting a feel for who falls on my cuteness radar.
 I firstly rate a girl based solely on appearance and add a note on her profile (that only I can see, by the way) that I find her cute and need to chat
 I try and get an initial batch of 50 Thai girls rated.
After that, I'll send them all a 'Hi. I like your profile. Are you up for a chat?' message
 Then I logout and come back the next day. I'm slowly planning out and booking at this stage, so there's no rush.
 The next day I log back in and see who has replied. This part used to frustrate me as Thai girls can be so slow and unreliable in responding. Some are quick, and some check-in once a week, fortnight, month, whenever. You'll get used to it.
The ones that reply slowly, I usually rate low and drop them altogether. It just frustrates me, and I'd rather not have to deal with it.
 So now we're getting into chatting on the site. And I tweak my ratings on how much I like them and jotting down anything specific they mention to me.
I don't tell them any Line, Skype, WhatsApp details until I've told them, nicely, that I'm looking for a holiday girlfriend and see how they react.
I never use Messenger or Facebook - no way do I want them prying into my stuff.
So you can see how useful rating and note-taking is to sorting the rubbish Thai girls out from the cuties.
For an old guy, my Dad was saved more than once by note-taking lol We don't all remember as good as we'd like to.
Admin Message System
I've never seen a direct message area on any other dating site to message the Website Administrators. You will come to appreciate this feature.
It comes in very handy like:-
Keep that original Admin message they send you to make it easy to refer back to it. And reply to them with another question whenever you might have one.
Fantastic to get help from a website in this day and age. None of the IT projects I work on ever has this, but you will discover it is helpful.
So providing you've told the truth and set all your Thai girls' expectations, most will want to go off on some holiday adventures with you.
Remember, you fit the bill on all expenses here. Don't expect the girls to pay for anything if you're pounding them senseless for a week or more.
Some will be expecting a bonus too.
If they see you as a good solid guy who wants to see them again or you play the 'boyfriend who wants them to move to your country' routine, there is a good chance you can avoid this extra cost.
It's up to you how that weighs on your conscience. A typical month's salary for a shop clerk here is around 14,000 baht.
Giving a Thai woman 5000 baht for a week of constant sex isn't going to kill you. That's about AUD 240, which is the price of a below-average Australian prostitute for an hour.
Remember that you can book flights and buses quickly in Thailand.
I prefer Bangkok-based Thai girls, and my residence is to meet the girl first for a coffee and double-check she's ready.
If she is, do some small talk over coffee and get to meet her later at your condo so you can finalize the remainder of the trip and talk about activities.
The coffee chat is an excuse to fuck her the first time. You want to check she's compatible and eager to participate.
A few girls had second thoughts when it came to doing to deed with a stranger.
Once you've fucked and you both enjoyed it without complications, book the travel and get going.
Take it slow at first until you iron out the wrinkles and the process.
You'll stumble a bit at first, as I did. I made some mistakes with my messaging scripts, but you should test those on a small number of girls and gauge the reply results.
Once you've got the process down, it's only a matter of repeating.
I've explained this relatively simple process to my friend, father, and many single mates who have all had winning successes.
Author: Stephane Fillon
Loving travel & new experiences across Asia/Pacific
Hi, I'm Stephane. I love to travel and experience new adventures, particularly throughout the South-East Asia and Pacific countries. I've been doing this for the last 10 years and love it.
I enjoy helping others learn from the insights I've gathered along the way and from the countless misadventures I have encountered - 'Never try, never know' is a solid quote to live by.
I do hope you enjoy my many posts and do let me know if your have any comments.