Thai Girls - Girlfriend Or Thai Bride?
To marry or not to marry Thai girls is the question here.
Are you better off, in the long run, to only maintain girlfriends in Thailand?
There are 35 million Thai women in Thailand. Low salaries and long work hours lead Thai women to seek a better lifestyle and marriage choices; leading many to choose foreign boyfriends and husbands. Thai women are excellent mothers and produce attractive babies; a sought-after by-product by many older ex-pats. The rule of thumb with Thai girls is entering a live-in arrangement to gauge their long-term objectives and your compatibility with her.
Thai girls have the same thoughts as you.
They are in a quandary as to whether they just want a short term boyfriend that may eventually lead to something long-term; such as marriage.
Some Thai women are more than happy with a casual short term fling:
- they work long hours
- they've already been through many failed relationships and don't want the bother of commitment
- they only want a Western fuck-buddy
- they want a short term money exchange for sex
- they're bored sometimes with being alone
On the other side, most western men first come to Thailand for a short holiday.
Most have never experienced Thai ladies before.
These western guys usually come to Thailand for:
- a short sex holiday
- looking afield to see if these girls have their desired qualities of a potential partner
- looking to relocate to Thailand and naturally will want a Thai woman for a partner or wife
- comes for wife shopping in Thailand as they still want to live in their home country but want a Thai wife.
When you first meet a Thailand woman, she will always be friendly, kind and warm in her heart.
That's just the nature of Thai people.
Your first contract with Thailand women will be through an online dating website.
And your 1st task is whether she meets your 'dating needs' and you will first do this using the website's online messaging.
Almost certainly, you will move to a messaging application such as Skype or Line.
You need to switch up to video chat.
If you're lucky enough to live in Thailand, then your best bet is to arrange a face to face meeting with the lady.
Video chat is unquestionably convenient, but nothing beats a face-to-face date.
You can read body language and all the nuances that go with it.
From my experience, you can steer the conversation far better when you are sitting next to her.
It is just easier to understand what she wants.
Plus you'll have a pleasant coffee date with a sexy girl.
But you need to get started first.
You'll find more than your fair share of women on this site so start by signing up first, look around and understand how dating online works and get browsing at the girls who you find attractive.
What Are the Positives?
Do you live in Thailand or visiting?
Are you looking for a Thai wife or a girlfriend?
Attentive and Pleasing
From your first contact with women in Thailand, you will come to understand they want to please you.
Her pleasing nature is a part of a woman's cultural upbringing in Thailand.
Sadly, Thai boys are the the 'golden children'. Men will always be the dominant gender in Thai society.
That is changing, but it is a slow process.
So the boys (and then men) tend to be spoiled by their mothers; which has a detrimental effect when it comes to relationships as the boys grow older.
Women, on the other hand, are raised to project an outwardly beautiful personality and appearance.
Thai women are attentive towards men.
Thai society impacts on this as they grow older and gain more experience.
The underlying current of attentiveness towards men remains.
- Isn't that what every western man craves?
- Isn't having a beautiful and sensual woman (who wants to please you) something that every guy wants in life?
Another aspect of cultural education is the majority of girls only want their 'true love'.
And they only want one guy for the rest of their lives.
This premise is throughout almost every part of Thai media.
Sit down in front of Thai television, flip to Channel 3, and you'll see why girls throughout maintain an unrealistic view of what real-world romance is.
They think a Knight in shining armour does exist for them.
When you're reading a Thai woman's online dating profile, and they mention they want true love; there is a fair chance, the girl has no idea what she wants from a guy.
Bear that in mind :)
Casual and Fewer Attachments
One of the good things with starting with a new Thai date is moving at a slow and casual pace.
It comes with positives and negatives.
When your relationship has no attachments, or only a few attachments then both sides have the freedom to look further afield.
If you're coming to Thailand for a sex holiday, then fewer attachments is probably a good thing.
If you're looking to hook up with girls for a longer-term commitment, then you need to be aware they may or may not be looking for the same thing as you.
There is an undercurrent in Thai society about casual friendships, that includes sexual encounters.
So when you think you're in a monogamous relationship with one of the girls you have met, they may well be fucking other guys in their free time.
They may not, but it does frequently happen in Thailand.
You are not the only fish in the ocean.
Important Fact dating Girls in Thailand
When you first start contacting girls, they already have more than just you on the hook.
The same as you.
The Trophy and Sex
Most Thai people see most Westerners as being wealthy and affluent.
You may not be, but Thai people see you as being so.
Did you know most Thai women have a cultural upbringing influenced by many other countries?
- Significantly her love of white skin.
- Most fear the sun with a vengeance.
- Everywhere in Thailand, you'll see women with umbrellas hiding from the sunshine.
Thai men also target white-skinned women.
In their minds, white skin signifies western beauty.
For a Thai guy, the real trophy for them is white-skinned women.
It's a sad and vicious circle for the girls here.
Thai guys seek white skin girls and brown-skinned girls prop up the skincare beauty products market by continual buying of skin whitening products.
And that's where Western guys come into the picture.
The funny thing is most western men prefer the brown-skinned beauty of Thailand women.
So, the cycle goes that the darker brown girls tend to seek western men as the trophy:
- you have white skin and
- you are wealthy and affluent.
And when you're the prize, you will also get the dividends.
For a guy starting, dating Thailand girls, the prize will typically be sex and more sex.
So What're the Negatives?
Having a girlfriend in Thailand in a casual situation means that she is never really yours and yours alone.
Let me give you a real-life example of what that might mean
A friend of mine told me this story.
He was looking for girls for his sex holiday.
He was in bed getting a fantastic blowjob from a beautiful Thai cutie. Amid the action, the girl's phone started ringing. He saw she was a little concerned.
She continued stroking him, and she got the phone. Still stroking, she answered the phone. It was her 'boyfriend' living in the UK and still stroking him.
She was saying things such as "no I am alone at home", "nobody with me", "you are my only teerak", "I love you so much".
The phone chat continued for a few minutes. Eventually, the UK boyfriend hung up the phone.
Without missing a beat, this Thai hottie slipped back on and continued the blowjob as if nothing had happened.
This behaviour is what you're up against in some casual relationships with these girls.
Sex and having many girlfriends is a way of life in Thailand.
Is it any wonder Thailand women aren't jealous?
When she gets her Western trophy, she keeps her eye on 'her man'.
That's when the jealousy beast comes out of the box.
And also when the mind games start.
Be prepared for crying, endless questions about you not loving her.
You get the picture.
Publicly displaying possessions goes on everywhere.
Now that you've got a girlfriend, you need to understand she'll try to up the ante with getting new things from your wallet.
Not all girls try it but most will.
Example: There are street markets all over Thailand.
Wandering around the markets with a Thai girl is good fun.
If she's fixing to pad out her wardrobe, then she'll be trying on shoes, bags, dresses and swimming costumes and then trying to get you to foot the bill.
You may be OK for this which is up to you.
Just be aware the majority of Thai people can be centred around themselves, primarily.
Playing Mind Games
Men are simple creatures.
We only have a few needed triggers to get us through the day.
Women know our weaknesses, and everywhere in the world, they use this knowledge to fuck us over in our heads.
Thai life 'appears' outwardly calm and easy-going.
A Thai woman's mind is a different matter.
Like all women, a Thai girls' mind is racing when thinking about herself. Those thoughts extend to helping herself since she is only a girlfriend.
They can be jealous, ignorant of your needs, the withholding of sex to get what they want, and they can lie through the teeth. (Actually, that's like most women the world over, really lol)
Take Care Me
You'll see the phrase 'take care me' in online dating profiles as well from the lips of these Thai babes.
From my experience, the meaning of the phrase changes daily depending on their requirements.
I had a curious experience myself just chatting to a girl online.
Her dating profile had the phrase 'take care of me'. I wanted to make sure I wasn't setting myself up as her ATM.
So using the Line messaging app, we starting chatting.
I quickly drilled down to try to find out what she meant by 'take care of me'.
It started with her saying she wanted to find a man to take care of her heart (as in love affection).
Further probing revealed she had no job and cared for her line-in mother.
For this Thai lady, 'take care me' means maybe give her love but more importantly, to be a money conduit to take care of her and her mother financially.
Just be on the lookout your unattached girlfriend isn't looking to secure her stability in a country with less financial advantages than in the West.
Without their security, Thailand girls are like any other woman.
They worry for themselves.
OK, So What Are the Positives?
In a country that values family, most of the young girls have marriage as the ultimate destination.
You can review the many advantages of having a girlfriend when she has the security of a good man and husband.
You'll have a higher acceptance in Thai society too.
Bear in mind Thai people still view you as a western guy.
No matter what you do in this country, you are not the same as a Thai.
The locals just won't take advantage of you as much now. :)
Great Looking Kids
It's funny to understand, but a Thai woman also views the good looks that the offspring of a Thai and western guy can produce.
You've only got to take a look at Thai television to see the abundance of fine-featured fairer-skinned actors and actresses.
Most are the progeny of these gorgeous girls and guys from other countries as well as Korea.
Your children will have the more delicate features of a Thai; with fairer skin and different eye colour of your heritage - a great status symbol for the parents.
You just might give birth to a future Thai Superstar. :)
There are advantages to opening a business here.
There are restrictions. Even with a Western person involved, the business still needs Thai employees of a specific ratio.
As a general rule, Thailand limits foreign business and company ownership. Foreigners can hold no more than 49% of the shares.
There are legal ways for a full 100% foreign ownership, but they are time-consuming and lengthy to explain in this article. Please seek legal advice from a specialised Thai lawyer.
As I said before, Thai society still has that undercurrent of casual sex.
I've heard from other people this still goes on during the marriage. Thai men are not the only adulterous gender in the country.
Girls & Brides Cons
Maybe Not Kids
You're going to marry a much younger lady (yippee says every guy!).
Most older Western guys will either already have had a family or are too old to want them.
But your young Thai bride has her biological motor running.
She's eager to have children.
That's a definite 'red flag' for your relationship.
When it comes to marrying these younger girls, the question of where to get married needs some thought.
Divorce laws in Thailand make it difficult to extract yourself from a marriage that isn't working.
On the opposite end of the scale, taking your girl to your country for marriage has some difficulty when it comes to passports, visas and paperwork.
Thai Bride Jealousy
Sorry to say but Thailand girls who may become your bride never lose the jealousy streak :)
I hope you haven't got the wrong impression here about women from Thailand.
But you need to go into any short term or long term relationship with your eyes open.
With a female population of 25 million of dating age, these girls make the ideal companion for any western guy.
All people are different, and all people have their motivations and agendas. Single Western guys are the same.
There are good ones and bad ones, just like women in any other country.
I think the positive aspects far outweigh the bad.
It just takes time, perseverance and meeting more than just the first Thai woman you see when you get off the plane.
The golden rule relating to these Thai women is to marry them AFTER living with them (for no less than 12 months).
You need time to discover whether they're in it for you or something else.
Get some guts and break up with the woman if she doesn't want you.
They are sensual, sexual, beautiful and will take care of all your needs when you let them.
When you find the right Thai lady with the right motives, that is.
The only motive for a long-term relationship with a Thai woman needs to be about you and not about your wallet, not about her social standing and not about her possessions.
Good luck, no matter what you're seeking.
What are the negative aspects of Thai women?
- they're very jealous
- they love to collect possessions
- many play mind games
- they expect being taken care of excessively
What is good about Thai women?
- they will accept almost anything in life
- they produce good looking babies especially from foreigners
- they love sex and are willing to learn more
- there are 35 million Thai women in Thailand
Last updated: November 02, 2021
Hi, my name is Martin. I have many friends in and traveled throughout the Asia/Pacific regions for the past 17 years. I am passionate in helping others with my insight and past adventures.
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