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Thai Girls - Thai Girlfriend Or Thai Bride?

To marry or not to marry Thai girls is the question here.

Or is it whether you are better off in the long run to only maintain girlfriends in Thailand?

Thai girls have the same thoughts as you.

Well, maybe not exactly the same :)

They are in a quandary as to whether they just want a short term boyfriend that may lead to something long-term such as marriage.

Some Thai women are more than happy with a casual short term fling:

  • they work long hours
  • they've already been through many failed relationships and don't want the bother of commitment
  • they only want a Western fuck-buddy
  • they want a short term money exchange for sex
  • they're bored sometimes with being alone

On the other side, most western men first come to Thailand for a short holiday.

Most have never experienced Thai ladies before.

These western guys usually come to Thailand for:

  • a short sex holiday
  • looking afield to see if these girls have their desired qualities of a potential partner
  • looking to relocate to Thailand and naturally will want a Thai woman for a partner or wife
  • comes for wife shopping in Thailand as they still want to live in their home country but want a Thai wife.

When you first meet a Thailand woman, she will always be friendly, kind and warm in her heart.

That's just the nature of Thai people.

Your first contract with Thailand women will be through an online dating website.

And your 1st task is whether she meets your 'dating needs' and you will first do this using the website's online messaging.

Almost certainly you will move to a messaging application such as Skype or Line.

You need to switch up to video chat.

If you're lucky enough to live in Thailand then your best bet is to arrange a face to face meeting with the lady.

Video chat is certainly convenient but nothing beats a face-to-face date.

You are able to read body language and all the nuances that go with it.

From my experience, you can steer the conversation far better when you are sitting next to her.

It is just easier to understand what she is looking for. Plus you'll have a pleasant coffee date with a sexy girl.

But you need to get started first.

You'll find more than your fair share of women on this site so start by signing up first, look around and understand how dating online works and get browsing at the girls that you're attracted to.

What Are the Positives?

What we are going to run through now is dependent on whether you live or don't live in Thailand as well as whether you want a girlfriend or a wife.

Attentive and Pleasing

From your first contact with women in Thailand, you will come to understand they want to please you.

This is a part of a woman's cultural upbringing in Thailand.

Thai boys are raised as the 'golden child'. Men will always be the dominant gender in Thai society.

That is changing but it is a slow process.

So the boys (and then men) tend to be spoiled by their mothers.

This tends to have a detrimental effect when it comes to relationships as they get older.

Women, on the other hand, are raised to project an outwardly beautiful personality and appearance.

They're raised to be attentive towards men.

Thai society impacts on this as they grow older and gain more experience.

The underlying current of attentiveness towards men remains.

  • Isn't that what every western man craves?
  • Isn't having a beautiful and sensual woman (who wants to please you) something that every guy wants in life?

Another aspect of the cultural education is the majority of girls only want their 'true love'.

And they only want one guy for the rest of their lives.

This premise is throughout almost every part of Thai media.

Sit down in front of Thai television, flip to Channel 3 and you'll see why girls throughout maintain an unrealistic view of what real world romance is about.

They think a Knight in shining armor does exist for them.

When you're reading a Thai woman's online dating profile and they mention they are wanting true love, there is a fair chance they have no idea what they really want from a guy.

Bear that in mind :)

Casual and Less Attachments

One of the good things with starting out with a new Thai date is moving at a slow and casual pace.

It comes with good parts as well as bad.

When your relationship has no attachments or only a few attachments then both sides has the freedom to look further afield.

If you're coming to Thailand for a sex holiday then less attachments is probably a good thing.

If you're looking to hook up with girls for a longer-term commitment then you need to be aware they may or may not be looking for the same thing as you.

There is an undercurrent in Thai society about casual friendships, that includes sexual encounters.

So when you think you're in a monogamous relationship with one of the girls you have met, they may well be fucking other guys in their free time.

They may not but it does happen frequently in Thailand.

You are not the only fish in the ocean.

Important Fact dating Girls in Thailand

When you first start contacting girls, they already have more than just you on the hook.

The same as you.

The Trophy and Sex

Most Westerners are seen by most Thai people as being wealth wealthy and affluent.

You may not be but Thai people see you as being so.

Did you know most Thai women have a cultural upbringing influenced by many other countries?

  • Significantly her love of white skin.
  • Most fear the sun with a vengeance.
  • Everywhere in Thailand you'll see women with umbrellas hiding from the sunshine.

Thai men also target white skinned women.

In their minds white skin signifies western beauty.

For a Thai guy the real trophy for them are white skinned women.

It's a sad and vicious circle for the girls here.

Thai guys seek white skin girls and brown-skinned girls prop up the skin care beauty products market by continual buying of skin whitening products.

And that's where Western guys come into the picture .....

The funny thing is is most western men prefer the brown skinned beauty of Thailand women.

So, the cycle goes that the darker tanned girls tend to seek western men as the trophy:

  • you have white skin and
  • you are seen as wealthy and affluent.

And when you're the prize you will also get the dividends.

For a guy starting out, dating Thailand girls the prize will typically be sex and more sex.

So What's the Negatives?

Having a girlfriend in Thailand in a casual situation means that she is never really yours and yours alone.

Let me give you a real life example of what that might mean

A friend of mine told me this story.

He was looking for girls for his sex holiday.

He was in bed getting a wonderful blowjob from a beautiful Thai cutie. In the midst of the action her phone started ringing. He saw she was a little concerned.

She continued stroking him and she got the phone. Still stroking, she answered the phone. Apparently it was her 'boyfriend' living in the UK. Still stroking him.

She was saying things such as "no I am alone at home", "nobody with me", "you are my only teerak", "I love you so much".

The phone chat continued for a few minutes. Eventually the UK boyfriend hung up the phone. Without missing a beat this Thai hottie slipped back on and continued the blowjob as if nothing had happened.

This is what you're up against in some casual relationships with these girls.

Video talking about jealous thailand girls


Sex and having many girlfriends is a way of life in Thailand.

Is it any wonder Thailand women aren't jealous?

When she gets her Western trophy, she keeps her eye on 'her man'.

That's when the jealousy beast comes out of the box.

And also when the mind games start.

Be prepared for crying, endless questions about you not loving her.

You get the picture.


Publicly displaying possessions goes on everywhere.

Now that you've got a girlfriend, you need to understand she'll try to up the ante with getting new things from your wallet.

Not all but most will.

Example: There are street markets all over Thailand.

Wandering aimlessly them is good fun with your girl.

If she's fixing to pad out her wardrobe then she'll be trying on shoes, bags, dresses and swimming costumes and then trying to get you to foot the bill.

You may be okay for this which is up to you.

Just be aware the majority of Thai people can be centred around themselves, primarily.

Playing Mind Games

Men are simple creatures.

We only have a few needed triggers to get us through the day.

Women know our weaknesses and everywhere in the world they use this knowledge to fuck us over in our heads.

Thai life 'appears' outwardly calm and easy-going.

A Thai woman's mind is a different matter.

Like all women, a Thai girls' mind is racing when thinking about herself. Those thoughts extend to helping herself since she is only a girlfriend.

They can be jealous, ignorant of your needs, the withholding of sex to get what they want and they can lie through the teeth. (Actually, that's like most women the world over, really lol)

Take Care Me

You'll see the phrase 'take care me' in online dating profiles as well from the lips of these Thai babes.

From my experience the meaning of the phrase changes daily depending on their requirements.

I had an interesting experience myself just chatting to a girl online.

Her dating profile had the phrase 'take care me'. I wanted to make sure I wasn't setting myself up as her ATM machine.

So using the Line messaging app, we starting chatting.

I quickly drilled down to try to find out what she meant by 'take care me'.

It started with her saying she wanted to find a man to take care of her heart (as in love affection).

Further subtle probing revealed she had no job and lived with her mother who she supposedly took care of.

It doesn't take an Einstein to realise for this Thai lady that 'take care me' means maybe give her love but more importantly to be a money conduit to take care of her and her mother financially.

Just be on the look out your unattached girlfriend isn't looking to secure her own stability in a country with less financial advantages then in the West.

Without their own security, Thailand girls are like any other woman.

They worry for themselves.

OK, So What Are the Positives?

In a country that values family, most of the young girls have marriage as the ultimate destination.

You can review the advantages of having a girlfriend and those are usually multiplied because she now has the security of a good man and husband.


You'll have a higher acceptance in Thai society too.

Bear in mind Thai people still view you as a western guy.

No matter what you do in this country you will never be seen on the same equal footing as a Thai.

The locals just won't take advantage of you as much now :)

Great Looking Kids

It's funny to understand but a Thai woman also views the good looks that the offspring of a Thai and western guy can produce.

You've only got to take a look at Thai television to see the abundance of fine featured fairer skinned actors and actresses.

Most are the progeny of these gorgeous girls and guys from other countries as well as Korea.

Your children will have the finer features of a Thai with fairer skin and different eye colour - a great status symbol for the parents.

You just might give birth to a future Thai Superstar :)


There are advantages with opening a business here.

There are restrictions all criteria of that even with a Western person involved in business that they still needs to be ownership and employees of a certain ratio.

Bad Girls

As I said before Thai society still has that undercurrent of casual sex.

I've heard from other people this still goes on during marriage. Thai men are not the only adulterous gender in the country.

Girls & Brides Cons

Maybe Not Kids

You're going to marry a much younger lady (yippee says every guy!).

Most older Western guys will either already have had a family or are too old to want them.

But your young Thai bride has her biological motor running.

She's eager to have children.

That's a definite 'red flag' for your relationship.


When it comes to marrying these younger girls, the question of where to get married needs some thought.

Divorce laws in Thailand make it difficult to extract yourself from a marriage that isn't working.

On the opposite end of the scale taking your girl to your country for marriage has some difficulty when it comes to passports, visas and paperwork.

Thai Bride Jealousy

Sorry to say but Thailand girls who may become your bride never lose the jealousy streak :)


I hope you haven't got the wrong impression here about women from Thailand.

But you need to go into any short term or long term relationship with your eyes open.

With a female population of 25 million of dating age, these girls make the ideal companion for any western guy.

All people are different and all people have their own motivations and agendas. Single Western guys are the same.

There are good ones and bad ones, just like women in any other country.

I think the good aspects far outweigh the bad.

It just takes time, perseverance and meeting more than just the first Thai woman you see when you get off the plane.

The golden rule relating to these single girls that most experienced expats apply to marriage them AFTER living with them (for no less than 12 months).

This gives the needed time to discover whether they're in it for you or for something else. Grow some balls and cut the girl loose if they aren't wanting you.

They are sensual, sexual, beautiful and will take care of all your needs when you let them.

When you find the right Thai lady with the right motives that is.

The only motive for a long-term relationship with a Thai woman needs to be about you and not about your wallet, not about her social standing and not about her own possessions.

Good luck, no matter what you're seeking.


What is bad about some Thai women?

  • they're very jealous
  • they love to collect possessions
  • many play mind games
  • they expect being taken care of excessively

What is good about Thai women?

  • they will accept almost anything in life
  • they produce good looking babies especially from foreigners
  • they love sex and are willing to learn more
  • there is 35 million Thai women in Thailand

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Author: Martin
Life Coach and IT Consultant

Looking for his dream come true.

It is a mix of cultures that both partners need to understand each other and accept the differences.

I hope this information helps.

Martin is just looking for a girlfriend to spend his retired years with in Thailand is one of the fastest growing online Thai dating websites for matching Thai girls and western men or farang. We are based in Thailand. We aren’t a Thai dating agency either. We specialise in online matching for Thai ladies from many locations in the Land of Smiles.

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