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Dating a Thai Woman the Right Way

Okay, this one is for the guys and it’s gonna be pretty basic and other than being basic, it’s going to use a lot of common sense, in what you should know about dating a Thai woman.

And a lot of this comes from Thai culture as well as using respect, courtesy, honestly and simply being a 'good guy'.

Go Easy on the Booze

Like any women anywhere in the world, a Thailand girl wants to make sure that the guy that she’s dating isn’t addicted to drugs or alcohol.

I mean, let’s be honest here, a Thai girl wants to see a fellow that has self-control, self-discipline and more importantly, respect for himself.

So meeting at Thai woman not only for the first time but the first time and every time after that she can expect your gonna take her and your relationship seriously so do that.

Don’t come off as being an arrogant and aggressive Farang a-hole.

The Thai culture is a gentle one.

From that, Thai women for the most part are gentle creatures who will be scared and put off by the aggression that is quite common in western guys.

So take it cool.

The Gentleman

Look at the culture that surrounds you and adopt that as your own.

Be a gentleman when dating a thai woman

A gentleman wins the hand of a lady every time – everywhere in the world too!

The Thai culture has been around for a long long time.

Like any woman, and especially in Thailand, there needs to be give-and-take between genders.

Thai women are usually quite shy but do have a high expectation that men, and particularly western men, act is gentleman.

Outside of Thailand, guys tend to think they can do whatever they please when they visit Thailand.

That is simply untrue.

It’s unacceptable.

As I mentioned earlier if you wish to retain the interest of the Thai woman then start thinking like a gentleman.

Put Some Effort Into It

Unless you’ve been living under a rock during the equality of the genders, you’ll already understand that women appreciate their guys taking some pride in their appearance and putting effort into looking good, smelling good and having self-confidence in themselves.

Look around you in Thailand or on our dating site and you’ll instantly know that Thai women take high pride in their presentation and appearance and probably more so than western women.

And because Thai women are so conscientious, you’re also expected to be well shaved (facial I’m talking about here), well groomed and looking smart for the evening, or wherever you’ve happened to arrange for your date.

Don’t Be Too Bold or Quick with Thai Girls!

Public displays of suggestion or bold suggestion, too quickly, will certainly put a Thailand girl off-side and on guard.

Use restraint to start with so that you both can get understanding of each other.

The lowest common denominator is the pace to move on.

So if the lady that you’re dating wants to move slower than you then you need to do that and hold off on western aggression which is certainly not part of Thai culture.

Remember, again, that Thai culture is gentle and you need to take that on board for as long as you are in Thailand.

Don’t be stupid!

The Subject Of Sex

Every woman is different and some will be okay with some sexual banter and some won’t be.

The thing is you won’t know!

So it makes sense to again understand and get to know each other so you haven an understanding of where the sexual boundaries are and what she isn’t and what she is comfortable talking about, both privately and publicly.

Last thing that you will want to happen is for your Thai girl to be embarrassed talking about intimacy which can be an uncomfortable subject for any woman on a date.

So respect the woman, take it easy and move at a slow pace.


Understand Marriage In The Culture

This is gonna come as a surprise to many western guys / Farangs.

The culture in Thailand is steeped in formality and meeting the parents in a western country is certainly not the same as in Thailand.

When you are introduced to a Thai lady’s parents then there is actually an expectation at some point in the future that a marriage proposal is looming. And if you’re going to fly a Thai female out to meet you, her family will also expect marriage.

Take it steady, take it easy, and understand the culture at a very granular level.

It will pay you in the long run.

Dating Locations

You know, it doesn’t take any effort at all to meet and date woman for the first time in a club or a bar.

Take effort and time and pick the right place to take your thai lady on the first date

And if I was a woman and our first date was at a bar, I would think you were a jerk.


Thailand is a wonderful place to explore.

There are many beautiful places and it doesn’t take much for you to open up a tourist map and pick something that you can both explore too.

Talk about and have some fun together which then opens up conversation and allows both of you to get to know each other better.

Culture Differences

I’ve dated women from other cultures in the past myself.

And I’ll tell you about one of the areas that got me into trouble initially – was cultural differences in talking and conversational remarks that weren’t understood or confused to be an insult.

So that’s an area that you need to flesh out yourself, and start learning the language so that you have an understanding of how they think, what words could be taken out of context or what words are similar and might be construed as confusing or insultive.

And never ever insult the Thai people or put down the Thai culture.

That’s simply bad form, in anyone’s language, and again shows you as a jerk and an idiot.

Chill out and have fun

One of the mind tricks that I use and it’s just a mindset thing.

The mindset that I adopt on a first date is pretending to go to a business meeting with someone I’ve never met before.

Was that do then?

It removes the dating 'butterflies'.

When you don't have the butterflies, you’re more relaxed.

You are more confident in conversation and you have the ability to simply have more fun.

So have fun, respect the new Thai woman that you’re with, give her your undivided attention and honesty and have fun together.


How Do You Date a Thai Women the Right Way?

  • Ease off the booze and sip
  • Be a gentleman until you know her better
  • Put some effort into understanding women in general
  • Avoid being too bold and slow down a little
  • Never talk about sex if you're still getting to know her
  • Study up on the cultural differences
  • Generally chill out and enjoy your time together

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