A Thai Girlfriend - All You Need To Know
Do You Know Who Your Girlfriend Is Going To Be?
Thai girls come in all shapes and sizes. They all think differently.
So how do you go about finding the girl that is the best fit for you? What should you keep in mind? Is there a tested process to help you?
Use a mindmap to determine the qualities you look for in a Thai woman. Targetting major Thai cities provide the most opportunity for results. Plan a detailed travel itinerary. Align travel plans with the woman's schedule. Thai women will be at ease when talking about everyday topics.
Interesting Facts Before You Get Started:
Having a Thai girlfriend one day doesn't mean she'll be yours the next. Sad and often correct.
There's a robust class system here in Thailand.
Class is determined by where you were born, your gender, your skin colour, money, your visible possessions, family status and even your boyfriend.
It's a never-ending battle for Thai women.
I know of successful marriages between Western men and their Thai girlfriends. I also see many more fail miserably.
Always be on your guard for signs of your Thai girlfriend chatting online for long periods. She might be looking to 'upgrade' away from you.
She will think different to you.
It is your job to determine who she is going to be.
You need to think about the qualities and characteristics of the Thai girls you want to meet.
The easiest way to do this is with a list on paper or use a mindmap which is what I prefer.
Have a look at the picture below to get an idea of how a mindmap works.
You want to end up with Thai girls that you find interesting, in your style.
It's OK if you like her to have a slim body shape.
It's OK if you like her to have a round body shape.
It's your choice, so be honest and tune your mind to what YOU want in life.
Where Will You Find Her?
Well, obviously in Thailand, dummy :)
Thailand is a small country. Yet, depending on the area of Thailand will determine distinct characteristics of the people who live there.
Examples of this are:
Lighter skinned Thai girls. If you're looking for a Thai girlfriend in Chiang Mai, you will do more work in getting to meet her.
Chiang Mai is untouched by outsiders.
The income level and English level is lower here than Bangkok, and the people are more conservative than Pattaya or Phuket.
The 'good girl' material is more modest and less open to meeting a foreign guy (Farang).
You'll also find most younger women have never had a boyfriend until they finish their college years.
These girls usually live with their parents until they are in their late 20s.
Don't be discouraged, though.
Like anywhere in the world, there's also a percentage of stunning Thai hotties in Chiang Mai who are highly interested in meeting and dating foreigners.
The best place to find a girlfriend here is the Internet through an online dating site.
Women from Udon Thani or Buriram are likely to have a broad beaming wide smile that you'll instantly fall in love.
The No. 1 thing to remember about north-east Isaan girls is to keep clean.
The same cleanliness rule is valid for all women in Thailand. If you want a girlfriend from a place like Udon Thani, be prepared to be sniffed 15 times a day before you get any sort of love or affection.
Udon Thani is a poor farming community.
But over 11,000 western men have taken them for wives.
That speaks volumes Udon Thani women have much to offer Western guys.
Just remember to keep clean.
There's a lot written elsewhere that having an Isaan girlfriend is only about money.
You need to remember this region of Thailand is poor.
The Isaan girls are sexy, intelligent, innocent as well as uneducated.
They are your perfect girl or so you might think.
But life isn't easy for these sexy girls.
Most of Thailand looks upon Isaan people as having a lower social status due to their lack of money.
Being a woman here has an even lower social class.
So many Isaan girls leave, head for bigger cities and find higher-paying employment.
If you find a girl who comes from this province, their priorities are likely to be:
- Their mother and family
- Saving face
- a Thai boyfriend and their friends
- Her possessions
- You (the western Farang guy)
If you can work with that in your life, get yourself a young girl from Isaan.
Women in Bangkok are the melting-pot of all of Thailand.
You'll find every variety here.
Bangkok occupies 606 sq miles in the Chao Phraya River delta in Central Thailand. It has a population of over 8.5 million (13% of the country's population).
By 2030, Bangkok will become one of the world's megacities with a population surpassing 10 million.
Bangkok is a massively big place!
Finding a Thai girlfriend in Bangkok is more accessible using an online dating site.
If you prefer what is called 'Day Game', Bangkok is home to some of the most affluent shopping malls I've ever seen.
You'll find an abundance of good Thai girls shopping in these malls, so try out your luck.
I'd recommend against heading to Yala (or any other area in Thailand's deep south) when thinking about a Thai girlfriend.
I've met a few cute Thai women who live in Bangkok but have roots in Yala, but the area is rife with conflict due to age-old unrest.
How - What's the Process?
How do you find them?
Your lifestyle will factor in on travel time, holiday time and online time.
Your first action is to join an online dating website, whether you live in Thailand or not.
You should have already researched your holiday schedule.
Where in Thailand you want to visit will go towards where you need to find a cutie girlfriend.
Popular cities for finding the cutest girls include Pattaya, Hua Hin, Khon Kaen, Chiang Rai, Phuket or some of the outer country areas.
Having specifics on locations helps with the 'How'.
OK, you got your travel itinerary mapped out. You need to attend to your online dating profile.
Every potential girlfriend will use your profile information to determine whether you will make a suitable dating candidate.
These girls have their own set of guidelines, just different to yours.
I can't stress enough having good quality headshot profile photos is a 'must-have'.
In my experience, five profile pictures is a reliable way to start.
I use two good quality headshot photos and three photos showing me in my active hobby - which is sailing.
So the first thing that girls see is that I'm active.
And younger women want to be a part of that.
I have what they desire, and they want some of that for their lives, or so they think.
Your profile description should be kept brief.
Adding some uncomplicated humour works well.
The humour needs to be easy to understand as English isn't a Thai girl's first language, and the translation is always a potential problem.
Leave mystery in their minds with a short profile description.
Enough to get their interest and get the online conversation started.
Then move them off the website and onto a messaging app like Line or Skype.
For me, a dating website is simply a shopping mall. That is what it is.
Girls see it this way as well.
It's a fast, simple and easy way to find an interesting girl.
The benefit of an online dating site is you can scan through hundreds of photos and online dating profiles over an hour.
Do it on your smartphone when you are waiting to meet someone.
Compare this to the work you need to do if you're going to do 'day game' in a shopping mall.
I've found shopping malls are just hard work in finding women.
Keep them as a meeting place for the first date.
Conversations with Thai Women
Thai people are generally not very open-minded.
Surprisingly, they unaware what’s happening outside of their own country.
Thai people love to talk about Thai things.
Talk about travel
Ask her if she has travelled before and what her dream destination would be.
Have some reference photos ready on your smartphone that can complement your stories but be very casual about it.
Talk about Thai food.
Ask her if she can cook and if she likes to cook.
Does she cook spicy?
Tell her you love Thai food, but you’re not used to the spiciness yet.
Ask her about the grasshoppers (takatan tod), if she eats them and if she thinks they are delicious.
Tell her the trendy food is in your country and ask her if she likes it.
Talk about Thailand
Tell her about the other cities you have visited or ask her what she thinks about those places.
Example: tell her you went to Pattaya and you didn’t like it too much.
Many girls 'ting tong' (crazy) and many old farang 'ting tong' as well.
Talk about Ladyboys
Tell her about the time a Thai ladyboy tried to harass you, or that time when your buddy accidentally took home a ladyboy.
You can wonder together with her why there are so many ladyboys in Thailand.
Ask if she has any ladyboy friends.
Ask how you can be sure if it’s a ladyboy or not.
Make non-offensive jokes about it, and maybe SHE is a ladyboy?!
Talk about Hobbies
Ask her if she can sing.
Then tell her you also love to sing, you just have bad luck that you are the worst singer in the world, that’s why you only sing in the shower when you are alone.
Ask her if she can dance and if she is good at it.
Does she like to party?
Where does she go when she goes out?
Talk about Isaan
If she is from Isaan, tell her it’s straightforward for you to know that she is an Isaan girl.
'Why?' she will ask you.
Tell her because (and this is accurate) girls from Isaan don’t say 'Chai' (yes) or 'Ka' (polite yes), Isaan girls say 'Uhhhh'.
Explain to her the 'Uhhhh' sounds very vulgar to your ears. Be sure to amplify your pronunciation and exaggerate how impolite it seems.
Why You Want One in the First Place?
Maybe you've never browsed through the online profiles of the Thai women on this site to understand the main 'Why'. :)
From all my travels, the most appealing and sexy are women from the Land of Smiles, Thailand.
Their beauty oozes innocent sexuality.
Thai women take great care of themselves, always.
It's funny to think that a guy would miss conflict in a relationship but having a Thai woman means the girl avoids conflict as much as they can - it is a culture thing.
The lack of conversation in an argument with a Thai girl is appealing and sometimes annoying. Learn to live with that.
It is what it is.
All That Cleaning
I love that Thai women are clean in everything they do.
I've had a girlfriend that showered more than four times a day.
She was an Isaan girl which I mentioned before.
Religiously cleaning their home - and yours if they stay with you.
They will clean anything they can get their hands on.
It is a nice change from Western women.
Girls and Food
Every Thai girlfriend I have had has taken the lead serving me food when we are out for dinner.
It is so cute.
Dishing you food is her way of showing respect to you.
Be prepared in sharing her food also.
Until you have experienced this, you'll never understand.
Thai Girlfriend Sex
Ah yes, the sex department.
Some Thai girls have never had a boyfriend, and some have.
They aren't afraid of trying new things in their sexual life.
And they are not afraid of voicing the pleasure they experience in bed either.
Having a Thai woman screaming in pleasure is one of my main reasons for living and travelling in Thailand.
I mean that in a respectful and sexy way.
Thai women are not afraid of their body or sharing it with the man they love.
When is the Right Time?
If you're a western guy currently living in Thailand, then the best time to find a girlfriend in Thailand is right NOW.
For those living outside of Thailand, I'd suggest you start the online dating experience at least a few months ahead of your arrival in the Land of Smiles.
A few months might sound a long time, but it is worth putting in the time because you will make mistakes as well as finding girls that don't suit your requirements.
From my experience, many beautiful Thai girls get their kicks from only chatting.
It's frustrating and annoying.
I don't understand why many of them do this, but maybe it's as simple as boredom in their lives.
Who knows. If the Thai lady just wants to chat only then drop her out of your queue.
Curious Fact #1 About Meeting Her:
They are notoriously unreliable when it comes to time and keeping appointments.
It only took me a few times of waiting 30 - 90 minutes for a few girls before I put some extra planning in place.
- Always reconfirm they know the meeting time.
- Be well prepared. Send a photo of the exact place you're meeting and confirm they understand.
- Ask them to Line you a message when they leave their home.
Getting set up on an online dating site for a few months allows you many opportunities to find a girl you think is appealing.
Make sure she meets your expectations physically, emotionally and are in locations that suit your travel itinerary.
You have been making a big list of every girl and what you've said and been planning, haven't you?
You need to maintain contact with all of them, always.
Every Thai girlfriend I've known has a low threshold for boredom.
You have to keep them interested in you and your plans together.
Amusing Fact #2 About Meeting Her:
- Never meet them in the morning. Never.
- Thai girls love to sleep.
- Shops rarely open before 10 AM in Thailand anyway.
Many of these girls don't have jobs.
There's an opportunity one of these online girls becomes your travel companion throughout your holiday.
Don't discount falling in love with the country of Thailand either.
You might end up staying here forever.
Who knows, the Thai holiday girl may turn into the South-East Asian relationship you've always wanted.
What should I do so the Thai girl shows up on time?
- Always reconfirm the meeting time
- Send them a photo of the exact place you're meeting
- Ask them to message you when they leave their home
- You leave your condo after that message arrives
Why are Thai women so popular with foreign men?
- They are stunningly beautiful
- You rarely have any conflict
- They enjoy doing your cleaning
- Their knowledge of food will amaze you
- Sex. Thai women are insatiable.
Last updated: November 02, 2021
Hi, I'm Stephane. I love to travel and experience new adventures, particularly throughout the South-East Asia and Pacific countries. I've been doing this for the last 10 years and love it.
I enjoy helping others learn from the insights I've gathered along the way and from the countless misadventures I have encountered - “Never try, never know” is a solid quote to live by.
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